包办代替 bāo bàn dài tì take over and do everything oneself

Explanation

这个成语的意思是，指应该和有关的人一起商量或一起做的事，却独自办理，不让旁人参与。

This idiom means that one handles a matter that should be discussed or done with others alone and does not allow others to participate.

Origin Story

很久以前，在一个村庄里，住着一位名叫老李的老人。老李是村里有名的能人，什么事都会做，而且总是喜欢包办代替，从不让别人插手。 有一天，村里要修建一座新的水渠，老李就主动揽下了这项工程。他召集了村里的年轻人，让他们按照他的指示去挖土运石，可是，老李却什么也不干，只是站在一旁指手画脚，指挥着大家。 年轻人一开始还耐着性子，听从老李的指挥。可是，时间久了，他们就感到很不耐烦了，因为老李总是事无巨细，什么都要管，一点儿也不相信年轻人，总是害怕年轻人做不好。 年轻人心里很憋屈，就找到村长，向村长诉苦。村长听后，叹了口气，对年轻人说：“老李这个人就是这个脾气，习惯了包办代替，你们就忍耐一下吧。不过，你们也要记住，做事要认真，不能偷懒，这样才能让他放心。” 年轻人听了村长的话，只好继续忍气吞声，按照老李的指示干活。可是，老李还是不放心，总是盯着年轻人，生怕他们做不好。 终于，水渠修建好了。老李看着崭新的水渠，脸上露出了满意的笑容。可是，年轻人却高兴不起来，因为他们觉得老李的做法很不妥。 老李对年轻人说：“怎么样，水渠修得不错吧？这都是我教你们的，你们要好好学习，以后才能做得更好。” 年轻人默不作声，他们心里明白，水渠的修建，他们虽然出力，可是却学不到任何东西，因为老李什么都要管，什么都自己做，根本就没有给年轻人学习的机会。

hěn jiǔ yǐ qián, zài yī gè cūn zhuāng lǐ, zhù zhe yī wèi míng jiào lǎo lǐ de lǎo rén. lǎo lǐ shì cūn lǐ yǒu míng de néng rén, shén me shì dōu huì zuò, ér qiě zǒng shì xǐ huan bāo bàn dài tì, cóng bù ràng bié rén chā shǒu. yǒu yī tiān, cūn lǐ yào xiū jiàn yī zuò xīn de shuǐ qú, lǎo lǐ jiù zhǔ dòng lǎn xià le zhè xiàng gōng chéng. tā zhào jí le cūn lǐ de nián qīng rén, ràng tā men àn zhào tā de zhǐ shì qù wā tǔ yùn shí, kě shì, lǎo lǐ què shén me yě bù gàn, zhǐ shì zhàn zài yī páng zhǐ shǒu huà jiǎo, zhǐ huī zhe dà jiā. nián qīng rén yī kāi shǐ hái nài zhe xìng zi, tīng cóng lǎo lǐ de zhǐ huī. kě shì, shí jiān jiǔ le, tā men jiù gǎn dào hěn bù nài fán le, yīn wèi lǎo lǐ zǒng shì shì wú jù xì, shén me dōu yào guǎn, yī diǎn ér yě bù xìn rèn nián qīng rén, zǒng shì hài pà nián qīng rén zuò bù hǎo. nián qīng rén xīn lǐ hěn biē qū, jiù zhǎo dào cūn zhǎng, xiàng cūn zhǎng sù kǔ. cūn zhǎng tīng hòu, tàn le kǒu qì, duì nián qīng rén shuō: “lǎo lǐ zhè gè rén jiù shì zhè gè pí qì, xí guàn le bāo bàn dài tì, nǐ men jiù rěn nài yī xià ba. bù guò, nǐ men yě yào jì zhù, zuò shì yào rèn zhēn, bù néng tōu lǎn, zhè yàng cái néng ràng tā fàng xīn.” nián qīng rén tīng le cūn zhǎng de huà, zhǐ hǎo jì xù rěn qì tūn shēng, àn zhào lǎo lǐ de zhǐ shì gàn huó. kě shì, lǎo lǐ hái shì bù fàng xīn, zǒng shì dīng zhe nián qīng rén, shēng pà tā men zuò bù hǎo. zhōng yú, shuǐ qú xiū jiàn hǎo le. lǎo lǐ kàn zhe zhǎn xīn de shuǐ qú, liǎn shàng lòu chū le mǎn yì de xiào róng. kě shì, nián qīng rén què gāo xìng bù qǐ lái, yīn wèi tā men jué de lǎo lǐ de zuò fǎ hěn bù tuǒ. lǎo lǐ duì nián qīng rén shuō: “zěn me yàng, shuǐ qú xiū de bù cuò ba? zhè dōu shì wǒ jiào nǐ men de, nǐ men yào hǎo hǎo xué xí, yǐ hòu cái néng zuò de gèng hǎo.” nián qīng rén mò bù zuò shēng, tā men xīn lǐ míng bai, shuǐ qú de xiū jiàn, tā men suī rán chū lì, kě shì què xué bù dào rè hé dòng xi, yīn wèi lǎo lǐ shén me dōu yào guǎn, shén me dōu zì jǐ zuò, gēn běn jiù méi yǒu gěi nián qīng rén xué xí de jī huì.

Once upon a time, in a village, there lived an old man named Li. Li was a well-known handyman in the village, he could do everything, and he always liked to take charge and never let anyone intervene. One day, the village was going to build a new canal, and Li took the initiative to take over the project. He summoned the young men of the village and asked them to dig the earth and transport the stones according to his instructions, but Li himself did nothing, just standing aside, pointing and scolding. At first, the young people were patient and followed Li's instructions. However, as time went by, they became very impatient because Li always interfered with everything, no matter how small, and never trusted the young people, always afraid that they would do a bad job. The young men felt very aggrieved and went to the village headman to complain. The village headman sighed and said to the young men, “Li is just like that, he is used to taking charge and doing everything himself, just be patient. However, you must also remember to be serious about your work and not be lazy, so that he can feel at ease.

Usage

这个成语通常用来批评那些喜欢自己包办代替，不信任别人的人，他们往往会因为过度控制而导致效率低下，也剥夺了别人学习成长的机会。

zhè gè chéng yǔ tóng cháng yòng lái pī píng nà xiē xǐ huan zì jǐ bāo bàn dài tì, bù xìn rèn bié rén de rén, tā men wǎng wǎng huì yīn wèi guò dù kòng zhì ér dǎo zhì xiào lǜ dī xià, yě bō duó le bié rén xué xí chéng zhǎng de jī huì.

This idiom is often used to criticize those who like to take charge and do everything themselves, distrusting others. They tend to be inefficient due to excessive control, and also deprive others of the opportunity to learn and grow.

Examples

• 父母包办代替，孩子没有自由选择的机会。

  fù mǔ bāo bàn dài tì, hái zi méi yǒu zì yóu xuǎn zé de jī huì.

  Parents arrange everything for their children, and children have no chance to choose freely.

• 领导不信任员工，总是包办代替，结果员工积极性不高。

  lǐng dǎo bù xìn rèn yuán gōng, zǒng shì bāo bàn dài tì, jié guǒ yuán gōng jī jí xìng bù gāo.

  The leader does not trust his employees and always does everything himself, which leads to low employee morale.

Related Idioms

• 越俎代庖

• 独断专行

• 指手划脚

Opposite Idioms

• 包而不办

• 放手让干