约会观念

丽丽

你觉得我们约会的时候，男生应该主动一些吗？

ni juéde women you hui de shihou, nán sheng yīnggāi zhǔ dòng yīxiē ma?

Do you think guys should be more proactive on dates?

小明

嗯，我觉得男生在约会初期应该更主动一些，比如安排约会地点，选择餐厅等等。但是也不能太霸道，应该尊重女生的意见。

en, wo juéde nán sheng zài yōu hui chū qī yīnggāi gèng zhǔ dòng yīxiē, bǐrú ānpái yōu hui dìdiǎn, xuǎnzé canting děngděng. dàn shì yě bù néng tài bàdào, yīnggāi zūnzhòng nǚ sheng de yìjian.

Yeah, I think guys should be more proactive in the early stages of dating, like arranging the date location and choosing the restaurant. But they shouldn't be overbearing, they should respect the girl's opinion.

丽丽

我同意。我觉得互相尊重很重要。男生太被动也不好，女生也会觉得没有安全感。

wo tóngyì. wo juéde hù xiāng zūnzhòng hěn zhòngyào. nán sheng tài bù dòng yě bù hǎo, nǚ sheng yě huì juéde méiyǒu ānquán gǎn.

I agree. I think mutual respect is very important. It's not good if the guy is too passive, the girl may also feel insecure.

小明

对，就是这个意思。不过，主动并不代表大男子主义，关键是真诚和体贴。

duì, jiùshì zhège yìsi. bùguò, zhǔ dòng bìng bù dàibiǎo dà nán zǐ zhǔyì, guānjiàn shì chéngzhēn hé tǐtiē.

That's right. However, being proactive doesn't mean being macho, it's about sincerity and consideration.

丽丽

你说得对，真诚和体贴比什么都重要。那主动和被动的界限在哪里呢？

nǐ shuō de duì, chéngzhēn hé tǐtiē bǐ shénme dōu zhòngyào. nà zhǔ dòng hé bèi dòng de jièxiàn zài nǎlǐ ne?

You're right, sincerity and consideration are more important than anything. Where is the line between proactive and passive?

小明

我觉得可以根据实际情况灵活调整，互相沟通很重要。如果女生有自己的想法，男生也应该积极听取。

wo juéde kěyǐ gēnjù shíjì qíngkuàng línghuó tiáo zhěng, hù xiāng gōutōng hěn zhòngyào. rúguǒ nǚ sheng yǒu zìjǐ de xiǎngfǎ, nán sheng yě yīnggāi jījí tīngqǔ.

I think it can be adjusted flexibly according to the actual situation, mutual communication is very important. If the girl has her own ideas, the guy should also actively listen.