自寻烦恼 inviting trouble for oneself
Explanation
自寻烦恼指自己给自己找麻烦，制造烦恼，多指不必要的烦恼。
Zì xún fánnǎo refers to making trouble for oneself, creating troubles, mostly unnecessary troubles.
Origin Story
话说林黛玉在大观园中，性格清高孤傲，又多愁善感。一日，她与宝钗等人闲谈，无意中谈及身世，想到自己寄人篱下，无依无靠，不禁黯然神伤，泪如雨下。宝玉见状，笑着说她‘自寻烦恼’。黛玉本就心思细腻，宝玉此言无意中触动了她心中的伤痛，更是哭得伤心不已。宝钗等人见此情景，纷纷劝慰。其实，黛玉的悲伤并非无缘无故，她内心深处渴望亲情，渴望归属感，而这种渴望正是她自寻烦恼的根源。她的眼泪，也并非只是单纯的悲伤，更是对自身境遇的一种无奈和抗争。这个故事告诉我们，很多时候，我们的烦恼并非来自外界，而是源于我们内心的不安和执着。与其自寻烦恼，不如坦然面对，积极调整心态，寻找解决问题的办法。
It is said that Lin Daiyu lived in the Grand Garden, and she was naturally proud, lonely, and sentimental. One day, while chatting with Baochai and others, she unintentionally talked about her background, and thinking about her situation, without being able to rely on anyone, she became sad, and wept like rain. When Baoyu saw this, he laughed and said that she was "inviting trouble for herself". Daiyu's feelings were very sensitive, and Baoyu's unintentional words touched her emotional wound, and she wept even more. Baochai and the others saw the scene and comforted her. Actually, Daiyu's sadness was not without reason; deep in her heart she longed for family and a sense of belonging, and this longing was the root of her troubles. Her tears were not just simple sadness, but also an expression of helplessness and resistance against her own situation. This story shows us that our problems often do not come from the outside, but from our inner restlessness and our attachments. Instead of making trouble for ourselves, it is better to calmly accept things, develop a positive attitude, and look for solutions.
Usage
用于形容自己给自己找麻烦，制造烦恼。
Used to describe making trouble for oneself, creating trouble.
Examples
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他总是自寻烦恼，真是让人无奈。
tā zǒngshì zì xún fánnǎo, zhēnshi ràng rén wú nài.
He always worries himself, which is really annoying.
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不要自寻烦恼，凡事想开些。
bùyào zì xún fánnǎo, fánshì xiǎng kāi xiē.
Don't worry about yourself, just think about things.
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他杞人忧天，自寻烦恼。
tā qǐrén yōutiān, zì xún fánnǎo
He worries about nothing and makes up problems for himself