设身处地 Put oneself in someone else's shoes
Explanation
设：设想。设想自己处在别人的那种境地。指替别人的处境着想。
Imagine oneself in another's situation. To consider from another's perspective.
Origin Story
从前，在一个偏僻的小村庄里，住着一位名叫阿福的年轻人。阿福为人善良，乐于助人，但他总是以自己的角度去看待问题，很难理解别人的感受。一天，村里发生了争执，两个村民为了一块地发生激烈的争吵。阿福听说了这件事，便立刻赶去调解。他首先询问了第一个村民，了解了他的想法和诉求。但当他询问第二个村民时，他却立刻开始批评第二个村民的观点，指出他的不足之处。结果，他的调解并没有起到任何作用，反而激化了矛盾。 晚上，阿福独自一人坐在家门口，回想着白天发生的事情。他开始反思自己，他意识到自己犯了一个很大的错误，那就是他始终没有设身处地地为两个村民着想。他只从自己的角度去看待问题，没有考虑到两个村民的感受和处境。 第二天，阿福又来到两个村民家里，他这次并没有急于表达自己的观点，而是仔细地倾听了两个村民的诉说。他设身处地地为他们考虑，试图理解他们的感受和处境。在了解了事情的来龙去脉后，阿福找到了解决问题的办法，最终帮助两个村民化解了矛盾。从那以后，阿福明白了设身处地为他人着想的道理，他开始改变自己，努力去理解别人的感受，做一个真正善良的人。
Once upon a time, in a remote village, there lived a young man named A Fu. A Fu was a kind and helpful person, but he always looked at problems from his own perspective and found it difficult to understand others' feelings. One day, a dispute arose in the village, and two villagers had a fierce argument over a piece of land. A Fu heard about this and immediately rushed to mediate. He first questioned the first villager, understanding his thoughts and demands. But when he questioned the second villager, he immediately began to criticize the second villager's point of view, pointing out his shortcomings. As a result, his mediation did not work, but instead exacerbated the conflict.
Usage
用于劝诫人们要站在对方的角度考虑问题。
Used to advise people to consider issues from the other person's point of view.
Examples
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这次处理事情，我们要设身处地为老百姓着想。
zhè cì chǔlǐ shìqíng, wǒmen yào shè shēn chǔ dì wèi lǎobǎixìng zhuóxiǎng
We should put ourselves in the shoes of the people when dealing with this matter.
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领导设身处地为我们考虑，我们深受感动。
lǐngdǎo shè shēn chǔ dì wèi wǒmen kǎolǜ, wǒmen shēn shòu gǎndòng
We are deeply moved that the leader put himself in our shoes and considered for us..