以己度人 Judge others by oneself
Explanation
以己度人是指用自己的想法和标准去衡量和判断别人。
To judge others by oneself means to measure and judge others with one's own ideas and standards.
Origin Story
从前，有一个自以为是的富翁，他总是以己度人，认为别人和他一样贪财好色。一天，他听说村里来了一个年轻的书生，十分清廉，便半信半疑地邀请书生到府上做客。席间，富翁不停地试探书生，暗示他送礼，却发现书生不为所动。富翁心想：难道这书生真是清廉？为了验证自己的想法，他故意把价值连城的古董摆在书生面前，看他的反应。结果，书生只是欣赏了一番便移开了目光，并没有表现出丝毫贪婪之意。富翁这才明白自己的以己度人是多么的错误，他开始反思自己的偏见，并向书生真诚道歉。从此，富翁改变了以己度人的习惯，学会了尊重别人，理解别人的想法。
Once upon a time, there was a self-righteous rich man who always judged others by himself, believing that everyone was as greedy and lustful as he was. One day, he heard that a young scholar who was very honest had come to his village, and he invited the scholar to his house as a guest, half-believing and half-doubting. During the banquet, the rich man kept testing the scholar and hinting that he should give gifts, but he found that the scholar remained unmoved. The rich man thought: Could this scholar really be honest? In order to verify his own idea, he deliberately put priceless antiques in front of the scholar to observe his reaction. As a result, the scholar only admired the antiques for a while, then moved his gaze, without showing any greed. At this time, the rich man realized how wrong it was to judge others by himself. He began to reflect on his prejudice and sincerely apologized to the scholar. From then on, the rich man changed his habit of judging others by himself, learned to respect others, and understand their ideas.
Usage
用于批评那些以自我为中心，不理解他人的人。
Used to criticize those who are self-centered and do not understand others.
Examples
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他总是以己度人，认为别人也和他一样自私。
tā zǒngshì yǐ jǐ duó rén, rènwéi biérén yě hé tā yīyàng zìsī
He always judges others by himself, thinking that others are as selfish as he is.
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不要以己度人，每个人都有自己的想法和处事方式。
bùyào yǐ jǐ duó rén, měi gèrén dōu yǒu zìjǐ de xiǎngfǎ hé chǔshì fāngshì
Don't judge others by yourself, everyone has their own thoughts and ways of doing things.